tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post430426558079397186..comments2024-03-28T14:11:24.265-07:00Comments on dhamma musings: AdulteryShravasti Dhammikahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06246408068143301108noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-75545143067610520112009-05-08T00:07:00.000-07:002009-05-08T00:07:00.000-07:00When a couple have an understanding that they are ...When a couple have an understanding that they are now committed to each other, and this almost always goes together with the understanding that they will be faithful to each other, then if one cheats they would be, in my opinion, breaking the third Precept. If one tells the other that the relationship is now finished and then has a relationship with another person, that would be different.Shravasti Dhammikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06246408068143301108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-66701831784966161822009-04-19T22:56:00.000-07:002009-04-19T22:56:00.000-07:00dear Bhante,
is the breaking of 3rd precept only ...dear Bhante,<br /><br />is the breaking of 3rd precept only applied to married couples? what about dating couples? will it be considered as breaking the 3rd precept too if one of them cheat with another person or a prostitute?Jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01401097130459844537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-45122797200071589252009-04-16T01:57:00.000-07:002009-04-16T01:57:00.000-07:00Dear MidPath,
Goodness! We really are living in in...Dear MidPath,<br />Goodness! We really are living in interesting times, aren't we? Okay, let me think about it for a moment……..Right, here goes. Such a relationship would seem to have become a marriage of convenience (the convenience of the child) and to that extent would not be considered a 'real' marriage. The couple would have the piece of paper but not the sexual relations, the faithfulness and the love (although perhaps there might be 'liking') that normally define a marriage. Therefore, if there was mutual agreement between the couple that each should seek love and even sexual fulfillment elsewhere, I would say that the third Precept was not being infringed because the couple are longer really married, in the true sense of the word.Shravasti Dhammikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06246408068143301108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-83968987444474940822009-04-15T09:05:00.000-07:002009-04-15T09:05:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.MidPathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04539093477868222175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-73215143642927999322009-04-15T08:57:00.000-07:002009-04-15T08:57:00.000-07:00Dear Bhante,
I have a question.
If two married p...Dear Bhante,<br /><br />I have a question.<br /><br />If two married persons, under very unsual circumstances, agreed to remain married but not conjugally (for the sake of the child) and one of them has another partner with whom he has a relationship with similar to a wife.<br /><br />Further, it is not a secret, there are no lies or deceit or pretence. There are also no lies, deceit or pretence towards the child.<br /><br />Is this person breaking the third precept?<br /><br /><br />MidPathMidPathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04539093477868222175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-40353451557654977582009-04-07T02:20:00.000-07:002009-04-07T02:20:00.000-07:00Dear MJ My teacher, not a particularly wise man b...Dear MJ <BR/>My teacher, not a particularly wise man but a very down-to-earth and practical one, said to me when I asked him this question; 'don’t fight them and don’t feed them.' I have found this advice very useful. When I have lustful thoughts, I give them a bit of attention and then gradually mosey on off to some other subject. They used to sometimes get the better of me and make me all hot and flustered. Advancing age has quieted them a lot and nowadays they are only a minor irritation. I see them like the wart on my left hand. It’s a bit unsightly but its been there so long I'm rather fond of it - and its not really too much trouble. Don’t fight them and don’t feed them and you should be okay.Shravasti Dhammikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06246408068143301108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-21055797115265757372009-04-06T19:10:00.000-07:002009-04-06T19:10:00.000-07:00Hi Bhante, you have any suggestion for us to disci...Hi Bhante, you have any suggestion for us to discipline our minds to not act on lustful thoughts? I suppose this is the 'samadhi' that Buddhism talks of. Thanks.Ming-Jie Chaihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036317534807087910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-6901425860709620502009-04-06T17:49:00.000-07:002009-04-06T17:49:00.000-07:00Such thoughts will cross the mind. They arise of t...Such thoughts will cross the mind. They arise of their own. If we don't act on them, we have not "sinned"... ie created bad karma, I think.Walterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14473139174740412105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1012277645322483593.post-52928871704732398232009-04-06T07:25:00.000-07:002009-04-06T07:25:00.000-07:00I really appreciate your scholarship on these issu...I really appreciate your scholarship on these issues.<BR/><BR/>Adultery may well be the most common breach of the Third Precept, as ordinarily understood.<BR/><BR/>But in my experience, the precept is breached whenever craving, lust, and lechery arise in the mind. Or, better said, whenever I indulge these impulses. In this way, I can see how I break the precept many times each day.Barryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09412033978642026623noreply@blogger.com